How To Survive and Happy as A Single Mom

To be a parent is uneasy for some people, moreover, to be a single mom after divorce or the husband died. However, it’s not impossible to live happily though you live as a single mom, whether you are a single mom of two or of 3 children or more. It depends on the way you live your life. I’ll show you some tips on how to survive and to be happy as a single mom.

As a single mom, you should do extra chores alone now, you should raise up your kids alone, you should care for them and you should also make money for living. It is not easy for some single mom, but it’s not as hard as you think though. Some single moms become stressed as they should do many things, they should care for everything alone, it must be exhausting. Even some forget to care for their health.

Your health is very important for your family. Your kids need you, you should care for them, you should do many things for them. If your health is out of control and you fall sick, everything would be in trouble. Therefore, to be happy is the smart way to survive as a single mom. Here are some tips on how to survive as a single mom.

Positive Thinking as a Sing Mom

The first tip of how to survive as a single mom is to think positively. If you just recently lost your husband, it would be hard for you. To think positively is not easy for some people, but you should try. You should live your life though it is hard. You should try to control your emotion, cast away your fear, don’t worry, everything would be okay. All people face two possibilities: happy or unhappy. So you should make your tomorrow happier, be sure you can. What you need to do now is doing something good, not to worry about your future. If you do something good now, tomorrow would be better.

As A Smart Single Mom, You Can Explain to your Kids Smartly

This is the second tip of how to survive and be happy as a single mom. Your kids may ask about their father, and you should explain to them. But, one thing must be your concern, they are just kids. They might not understand many things about your relationship, you should understand their capability. Don’t tell them about something negative. Assure them that everything is still okay, make them smile, make them think positively. They would understand you gradually.

Financial Management of A Single Mom

The third tip is about financial management. It’s not a big problem for career women or businesswomen, although you become a single mom, but if you were just a housewife, a single mom with no job, and now you should find a job or a business to make money. Find a job that suits your capability, the job that you can do while raising up your kids. It must be hard, but you should do it. Be sure you can, you are great enough to live this life. If you already have a job or a business, you need to manage it well.

If you can cook well, you can sell food, or you can open a small food stall. You don’t need much money for this business start-up. You can start selling the food to the neighbor. It’s easy in this era to sell any products, you can promote it online on Instagram, Facebook, youTube, etc. You can also cook some cake and sell it. You can also share profit with any cafe or small restaurant. You put your products there.

Other ideas, you can do any dropshipping business. You can use social media to promote products. You don’t need to keep any product in stock. You just promote the picture of the products online and while any buyers interested to buy it, they transfer the money to you, take your profit then you transfer the rest to the product owner. You can do it at home while playing with your kids.

You can also raise a pet business. There are some small animals that do not need much start-up capital to make it a business. You can run the business at home like fish, rabbits, hamsters, etc. If you have any space, you can grow grass for your pet feed. There are lots of business ideas you can do, you can find good business as a solution of how to survive as a single mom. Be creative and don’t be lazy.

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Make Good relationship With your kids

As a single mom, you become very busy, but it doesn’t mean your kids don’t need to play with you. They need you more than money and everything, they want to play with you. It’s important for you to be their friends. You’re their best friends, they want to laugh with you, they want to run with you, play ball etc. You might feel very tired, but you should try to spend time with them. If you hire a nanny, make sure your kids love you more than the nanny.

Raise up Your kids With Your Relatives’ Help

To be a single mom doesn’t mean you’re alone and doing everything without help, you still have relatives or family, you have friends. Humans always live together with others. Though you have many ideas about how to survive as a single mom, you still need others. You can ask their help in raising your kids. Even, if you become a single mom because divorce, you can ask your ex-husband or his relatives to help your kids. If you’re good to your friends and neighbors, they would be happy to help you. They would understand that your life is harder than before. However, if you have nobody to help you, you're a single mom with no help, you should try to hire a nanny.

A Single Mom Also Need To Create a household Rules

Household rules are also important, but you should make your home as a home, not a school or a training class. It means household rules are not like those at schools. You should teach your kids about discipline, how to live well. They should be trained to get used to any routine. Invite them to join the cleaning activity. Make them happy to follow you. This is also a good idea of how to survive as a single mom.

A Single Mom Should Care for Herself

As you are getting busier as a single mom, but don’t forget to care for yourself. You should keep your health and your beauty. Do some exercise in the morning to keep your health. Eat healthy food. Consume some vitamin. Take enough rest and sleep. You can also hang out with friends to enjoy your life. Being a single mom doesn’t mean you can forget your own life.

Those are some tips on how to survive as a single mom. There are lots of ideas and tips, this is only a few of those ideas. You can find them on the internet, you can read family magazines to find better ideas.

Real Stories Being a Single Mom is Hard

Syarifah Firdausi, an Indonesian single mom with 8 children. She works as a dump truck driver. Fantastic. Most Dump truck drivers are men, not women. It’s a hard job. But, for her children, Syarifah does it. She learned to drive a dump truck in 2005 and started working as a dump truck driver since 2008. By working as a dump truck driver, she can survive as a single mom.

In 2015 she bought her own dump truck, Mitsubishi Colt Diesel, to get more money. A smart single mom. She inspired other single moms on how to survive. Before working as a dump truck driver, she was a housewife. It must be so hard for her to start working. Before, she just staying at home: cooking, washing, raising kids, but suddenly she must work to make money. She didn’t give up and succeeded. (lifestyle.okezone.com).

Story of Financially Successful as a Single Mom

It's a fiction story based on a real story.

Salma lived with her children after her husband assigned to work in another city. She was living like a single mom, but still supported financially with her husband. However, story change, no love anymore. She slept with her children, no husband. It was hard for her. After several months she knew that there was another woman came to their lives. Her husband married another woman.

Salma was angry with him and proposed a divorce. Their children chose to live with her. To survive financially, she rented out her house. Then she rent another smaller house near a school building. She thought it was good for business. She earned money from the rented house and could earn more from another business. She planned to start a stationery store business that provides the students' needs.

Her business was quite successful. She thought it was the fortune for her children. However, as a woman, she needed a man.

"How old are you now?"

"Twenty five."

"That's enough to get married."

Two male teachers were talking about marriage at Salma's store. Both wanted to buy some pencils and paper. Salma saw his face for a while. He was handsome. He was too young for her, but if he wanted to marry her, she must be very happy. She had been long time sleeping without a man on her side. The life was getting harder for her. Being single was not easy, money was not enough.

"I never see your husband?" a teacher asked her.

"I am divorced."

"Ow... You're so beautiful."

"Thank you."

"Why don't you marry again?"

"I hope so."

"Sorry, Would you mind if any teacher proposed to marry you?"

She laughed. She knew that teacher liked her. "If he is a good man, no reason to refuse."

Both got married. Salma was very happy having a new husband. Her life became more wonderful with her new husband. But, suddenly the owner of the house she rented didn't want to continue renting the house. It meant, she should find another house and her business ended. She moved to her parents' house with her husband. She earned money only from her rented house. She tried to find another business.

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